How to Survive Planning a Destination Wedding if You’re an Introvert

So many of my clients planning a wedding in Central Park are self-professed introverts.  People who choose to elope for their wedding, or bring just a small group of their very closest friends and family rather than have the big, traditional wedding close to home tend to be fairly introverted.  These are my people. 

If you are quite an introverted person, then you’re likely to find planning a destination wedding exhausting, even with a small group.  If you elope, then you’re avoiding a lot of the problems that dealing with others can present, but many of our couples getting married in Central Park tend to bring a small group with them.  Introverts can be terrified at the idea of all the attention that a wedding can bring.  There are some ways introverts can keep stress levels down when planning a destination wedding in New York, or indeed anywhere.

  • Plan the wedding for you.  So many couples tell me that they have started down the route of planning a big wedding and then realised that the whole thing was becoming more about others than about the two of them.  You and your partner are the ones who are getting married, so the wedding should be how you want it.  Discuss your wishes and needs as a couple, take your guests in to account, but ultimately you should do what you both want to do.  Keep a casual vibe.  The more formal the wedding, the more pressure you might feel.  Keep the tone light to avoid unnecessary stress.
  • Make a time line of the wedding day.  I help my clients to do this for their day in New York.  Make sure that you get a bit of down-time every now and again.  This might be before the ceremony, where you might want some time by yourself, or quiet time with just your family or just your bridesmaids.  Maybe you can get some alone time while getting ready; either have a quiet breakfast alone, or perhaps ensure that there is time for a little rest after having your hair done.  Take time out to be alone and breathe.  Perhaps after the ceremony try to get some quiet time with your new spouse, to appreciate the big step you are taking together.  This might be having your first dance, either just before or just after the photos, or possibly taking a cab to your reception separately from your guests.  We can usually find a way to sneak in a bit of alone time for the newlyweds in to a busy wedding day.
  • Consider hiring a wedding planner.  Lots of introverts tell me that it makes things easy to get to know their wedding planner quite well, and to only have to communicate their wishes to one person.  Some couples tell me an awful lot about their relationship, and that allows me to write their ceremony wording, but some prefer to keep the ceremony quite impersonal and keep themselves to themselves.  Whichever you choose is fine with us, and either way, this allows me deal with all the other vendors on the couples’ behalf. 
  • Keep your vows short.  You might want to keep what you are saying out loud to a minimum.  We can have a guest or the officiant read a poem or other reading that articulates how you’re feeling, and that avoids you having to say too much.  Don’t write long and emotional vows to say to your partner in front of everyone if you don’t want to.  If you do want to say something personal and unique, then bring it on a card to read out, or keep it short and repeat your vows line by line after your officiant, or just say “I do” and get out of there!  A benefit of having a small, intimate wedding is that the fewer people you have listening to you say your vows, the less self-conscious you should feel.
  • Keep input from family and friends to a minimum.  Accept help where it is offered, if it is what you want – you are allowed to say no.  Be selective about who you involve in the planning.  Advice is great, but introverts can find that listening to too many people can get overwhelming.  You will want your guests to be comfortable, happy and entertained.  Introverts are often very aware of others’ feelings, so if you sense that your guests aren’t happy then you won’t be either.  When planning a big trip abroad with a group, it can be tricky to keep everyone fairly happy and have the wedding you want.  Take care to strike the right balance.   
  • Communicate with your loved ones.  Tell your people how you are likely to feel.  Your partner will know you and your needs well, but it is worth taking the time to explain to your bridesmaids and your family (and your in-laws!) that you expect to find the day overwhelming at times, and you may need them to allow you some space to help you get through it.  They are unlikely to be surprised – after all they know you and love you, too.
  • Party a little, then rest a little.  Spread out the socialising.  Have your bachelorette or hen party at least a few weeks or even months in advance of the wedding, to give yourself time to relax in between.  If you want to, you can avoid events like bridal showers, and other wedding get-togethers the night before the wedding.  On the other hand; pre-wedding get-togethers can be a great opportunity for the busy couple to hang out with some of the people that they might not have enough time to spend as much time with as they would like on their wedding day.  So, if you have a big group and feel that extra celebrations as group will take the stress off, then do it.
  • Have some quiet time on the day before the wedding. This could be your spouse to be, or with your bridesmaids – someone who you feel it is easy to be around.  Schedule some fabulous New York sightseeing that won’t be with the larger group.  Many introverts can cope with one day of intensive social activity and attention, but it will certainly help if you have a few days of quiet beforehand to get your batteries fully charged!  Don’t fill your diary up with gatherings with everyone involved in the week before your wedding.  Take some time out.

It is very important to pay attention to how you will feel on your wedding day when planning your wedding.  The beautiful gown and the lovely flowers mean nothing if you are feeling anxious and overwhelmed all day and unable to enjoy it. 

So many women have been conditioned to believe that their wedding day is somehow the grand aim of their life – the best and biggest day of their life.  So, it’s not surprising that many brides feel huge amounts of pressure in the run-up to their wedding.  Take some time to consider what your wedding really means to you both, and take the pressure off a little.  Yes, it’s a big step, but it’s just a step.  You have probably made other big steps in your relationship together with less fuss and planning, and you will make other big steps together in the future, you have a long future together, so appreciate the wedding for what it is. 

If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest.  I’d love to hear tips from other introverts on how they got through their wedding day with minimum fuss.  Please add your thoughts in the comments below.

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Jazmin and Alex’s Cop Cot Wedding in May

Local New Yorkers Jazmin and Alex got married in Cop Cot in May.  They’re both from Queens, New York.  They met in middle school, and lost touch after school and then reconnected on social media a few years later.  Jazmin and Alex got engaged at home on Christmas Eve when they had been together for nine years.  Alex handed Jazmin a square gift box, when opened, the box fanned out and revealed pictures of them together, old cards they had written to each other, and an engagement ring box in the center.  Their wedding date was their tenth anniversary of being together. 

I asked why getting married was important to them.  “My parents never married and neither did my husband’s parents,” Jazmin told me.  But for them, marriage felt like an important step to take in their relationship but also something that they both felt unfamiliar with.  “We had committed so much of ourselves to each other over the past ten years, so marriage felt like the natural next step,” Jazmin said.

Once they were officially engaged, they started to think about where they might get married.  “Due to the Covid 19 pandemic, we knew finding traditional wedding locations would be complicated,” said Jazmin.  They didn’t want to wait for a long time for the pandemic to be fully over and for things to be completely back to normal to get married – after all, they’d been together for ten years and living together for five.  “Then we learned that we could get married in Central Park, which was perfect for us,” said Jazmin.  “Early on in our relationship, we spent a lot of time wandering Central Park, so the location is meaningful to us,” she said.

Jazmin and Alex had around thirty guests at their wedding in Cop Cot.  I asked Jazmin what she thought of smaller weddings in general.  “I do believe small weddings and elopements are becoming more popular now, due to restrictions set in place after the pandemic,” she said.  “I believe there are many benefits to having a small wedding,” she told me.  “It can be intimate, less stressful, and cost effective,” she added.  I couldn’t agree more, but most of our weddings are small and intimate, so I’m biased!

Being local New Yorkers, their wedding was close to home, only twenty minutes away! So they could have invited a bigger group, but they wanted to keep things small, I asked Jazmin how she felt about that. “After having my small wedding, I have no regrets.  My wedding was beautiful, intimate, and full of love,” she said.  “We were unable to host all the people we would have normally wanted at our ceremony, but thanks to our video live-stream, everyone was able to witness our ceremony,” she told me.

Jazmin and Alex had decided that they wanted to get married on this May date, because it was their anniversary, so they were confident the weather would be nice, and they also wanted to be outdoors to comply with restrictions imposed by the pandemic.  These factors, along with their affection for Central Park, made it the perfect locations for them;  “Central Park is an iconic place and we couldn’t have imagined a more special place to get married,” said Jazmin.

I asked Jazmin if they had had any concerns about getting married in Central Park.  “My initial concern about getting married in Central Park was securing the space,” said Jazmin.  “Since Central Park is a public park, I was worried about how we could have a private ceremony and what to do if people were occupying the space,” she explained.  “These concerns were gone once we learned about the option of an event permit and that we would be able to secure a space with it.  This turned out to be very useful because there were people trying to throw a children’s birthday party in the location that we reserved, so we showed our event permit and politely asked them to leave,” she said.  The event permit is only $25 and well worth getting even with a small group, in my opinion.  Showing that piece of paper can be a quick, simple and polite way to ask another group to move along. 

Since Jazmin and Alex were so familiar with Central Park, they were sure they wanted to ceremony location to be Cop Cot straight away.  I asked where their favorite photos were taken.  “Some of my favorite pictures were actually taken inside the Cop Cot structure and directly in front of it,” Jazmin said.  “The greenery was in full bloom and it made for magical pictures.  Since Cop Cot is perched on a small hill, we were able to take beautiful photos with the Manhattan buildings in the background.  

We had initially planned for them to walk up to Bethesda Terrace and Fountain with their photographer Julieanne for photos after the ceremony, but in the end, after taking lots of different group photos close to Cop Cot, they decided to just walk up to Gapstow Bridge for some portrait shots, and it turned out to be the right decision for them, since Jazmin said that some of her other favorite photos were taken on Gapstow Bridge.

We wrote a short introduction for the ceremony together, and the officiant read one of my favorites – “Union” by Robert Fulghum, which I will put at the end of this post.  They exchanged traditional vows, then read out personal vows that they had each written in advance and kept a secret from each other until the morning of the wedding, and then exchanged rings. 

Jazmin and Alex’s thirty guests were their parents, siblings, and closest friends.  “Everyone was pleasantly surprised when they found out we were getting married in Central Park and even more pleased after attending the ceremony,” Jazmin told me.  “I personally do not know anyone who has gotten married in Central Park and neither did our guests,” she said.   Jazmin looked stunning in a long white dress and a veil.  It was purchased online from Lulus.  Her bouquet was from a local vendor in Queens and it consisted of white andblush roses, eucalyptus, lisianthus, ranunculus, and other textural elements.  She had her hair and makeup done professionally on the day of her wedding at home. 

After the wedding ceremony that Sunday morning and pictures in the park, they all went back to Queens where Jazmin and Alex hosted a small reception with their guests.  I always ask our couples for restaurant recommendations, and often they are visitors to New York, but Jazmin’s knowledge is far greater than a tourist!  Her recommendation is the Freakin Rican restaurant, which I certainly want to try if only because of its awesome name!  “We catered food from this Puerto Rican restaurant the day of our wedding and it was a hit amongst our guests,” Jazmin told me.

I asked Jazmin what she would say to other couples considering a wedding in Central Park and she said “I would recommend getting married in Central Park to anyone.  It is a timeless location that will look beautiful no matter what the season is,” I completely agree of course!  “Central Park will always hold a special place in our hearts and we look forward to visiting Cop Cot in the future,” she added. 

I asked Jazmin how we did.  “The service I received from Wed in Central Park was amazing.  I would recommend it to any couple looking to get married in Central Park.  Claire and her team made our experience so effortless.  As a person who didn’t know the first thing about planning a wedding ceremony, Wed in Central Park was such a great resource for me,” she said.  Thank you for your kind words, Jazmin, and it was an absolute pleasure planning your wedding with you.  I wish you and Alex the best of luck for your future together.  If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

Union by Robert Fulghum

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.

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Why a Destination Wedding in Central Park Beats a Beach Wedding

Firstly; the argument I’m going to make in this post is very much tongue in cheek.  I absolutely and wholeheartedly believe that your wedding should be your day and that if we all liked the same thing the world would be a very boring place.  But, that said, I think I’ve got a couple of main contenders to my product offering, which is weddings in glorious, beautiful and world-famous Central Park (are you detecting a bias here yet?).  One is of course the traditional wedding close to home, and if a couple wants to do that, then I think their vision of their wedding day is very different from what I offer, so I’m not going to try to persuade those couples to come to NYC.  Except maybe for that time when I wrote my reasons to elope blog post.  If a couple has decided that they’re having a no-nonsense, easy and straightforward wedding in New York, then my main competitor might be City Hall, and I’ve already taken them on in another blog post.  But for couples who are considering a destination wedding but aren’t really sure where might suit them, then I think my main competitor is the beach.  Generally, when people think of a destination wedding, they often think of the beach first.  So, today I’ll be arguing against… beaches! 

Accessibility

The main problem with the beach is all that sand.  If there are guests in your party who might struggle walk or stand on sand then a beach wedding could be difficult.  Most of the ceremony locations in Central Park can be reached fairly easily by all levels of ability, and some have seating for those who can’t stand for too long.

Weather

Getting married outdoors brings a heightened concern about the weather, no matter where you are.  But the weather is easier to predict for Manhattan than many beaches, and Central Park does have some covered areas.  Holding the ceremony under cover can be advantageous in case of rain and also if the sun is high and bright.  Nobody wants to be squinting in all of their wedding photos.

Décor

We’re not allowed to decorate the structures in Central Park, but then again, have you seen them?  They’re beautiful and don’t need adornment.  Keep in mind that anything you set up on the beach will need to be windproof.  And the same goes for your hair.

Attire

If you’re getting married in the heart of what I’ll admit is a rather dirty city then you may want to choose a less fussy gown for your wedding.  If you’re marrying at the beach in the summer, you’ll want a very simple, lightweight and cool dress or suit  You can go for something a little bit fancier for a wedding in Central Park because it will be cooler.  You may not want to wear a veil on the beach, and also to keep the styling of your hair simpler.  Of course heels are totally out for the beach, although wearing some shoes would be helpful so your feet aren’t uncomfortably hot when standing on the sand.  Shoes are still a consideration when getting married in Central Park, because there will be plenty of walking involved, but you’ll have more options to choose from.

Lodging

If you’re planning a beach wedding in high season then your guests will probably need to know well in advance to book their hotels.  There’s no high season in New York and there are lots of hotels and apartments to choose from to suit varying budgets.  If you’re planning a beach wedding out of season, then you should certainly consider my comments above about the weather.

Privacy

I would say that a beach wedding or a public park wedding are on an even keel when it comes to privacy.  Some beaches are quieter than others, as are some locations in Central Park.  There may be passers by who stop to watch when getting married in either location.  The idea of a dream beach wedding with nobody else around is rare in reality, though.  If you want a private beach wedding then be prepared to book early and to pay for the privilege.  There are some quite private spots in Central Park if you know where to look and permits are $25. 

Restaurants

When choosing a beach wedding location couples will need to consider what restaurants or reception location choices are nearby.  Beach front venues are unlikely to want to hire out the whole place if you’re there during the busy season, so you’ll probably need to get all of the guests on to some transport for the reception.  There are 24 THOUSAND restaurants in Manhattan alone!  And that’s not counting the places in the other boroughs, many with with spectacular views and awesome food.  So, if you want choice when it comes to food; come to New York.

Legalities

Of course there are beaches in lots of countries, but if you want your wedding to be legally binding, then check the legalities surrounding marriage for your country of choice.  For many European countries, couples might need to have their legal ceremony at home, and the destination wedding ceremony is just for the celebration.  It’s very simple to get married in New York – just collect your license from City Hall, wait 24 hours, have the ceremony, then City Hall registers your marriage and it’s legally recognised worldwide and you get your marriage certificate in the post.

If I have successfully persuaded anyone NOT to get married on a beautiful beach somewhere, but instead to get married in gorgeous Central Park – visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

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Amanda and Adam’s April Wedding in Wagner Cove

Amanda and Adam got married at Wagner Cove in April.  Adam is British and Amanda is American and they first contacted me at the end of March, looking to get married in Central Park in mid-April, so we didn’t have time to lose! 

The couple had met on the dating app Hinge.  Due to the pandemic they weren’t able to meet in person straight away so they had known each other in real life for around five months before they got married.  “We are best friends,” Amanda told me. 

As is often the case with couple from different countries, if they wanted to be together, they had to be married.  They decided to get married at the end of March and contacted me pretty much straight away.   “When you have someone that you love being around and you have a passion for who is also your best friend and you get along so well with the same life goals and vision it makes getting married very easy decision,” Amanda said.

They didn’t have long to get their license so they had to get on that straight away.  Due to Covid 19, couples need to make an appointment to get their license at the current time, rather than just walk in to City Hall to pick it up as in normal times, so they had to start that process immediately to have their license in time for the date they had in mind. 

As it looked difficult to get the license, so they did briefly consider getting married in Las Vegas, Hawaii, or possibly London.  “We love New York City and due to Covid it was the best option as we were heading there anyway,” explained Amanda.  They had been in Philadelphia when they decided to get married, so moved on to New York for the wedding and decided on Central Park for their wedding ceremony location.

Amanda and Adam didn’t have guests at their wedding.  I asked Amanda what she thought of smaller weddings in general.  “Definitely elope!” she said.  “The smaller the better!  Never make the wedding bigger than the man and keep it personal,” was her advice.  I asked if she had any regrets about not having a traditional wedding and she said, “absolutely never and no!  We did it our way and are so happy!”

The couple were originally planning on getting married in the middle of the park, at Bethesda Terrace.  Then they decided that they wanted somewhere a bit more private.  So, we changed plans to get married at Wagner Cove, which was close to that middle area where they wanted to take photos, but much more tucked away and private.  “We chose Central Park because it’s beautiful,” Amanda told me.  “You’re surrounded by nature and beauty in the middle of one of the greatest cities on earth,” she said.

Amanda and Adam wrote their own vows to say to each other.  We kept in the traditional “I do” and “I will” parts but then they each read out a pre-prepared piece talking about their relationship to date and their feelings for each other and made promises for the future.  The officiant read a passage from The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach, which I’ll put at the end of this post.

While they were in town, Amanda and Adam stayed at the Intercontinental Midtown for nearly three weeks.  Amanda got her dress from RK Bridal and carried a bouquet of deep pink roses with cala lilies.  After the ceremony, they took photos around Central Park and then ate dinner at Il Corso, an Italian restaurant in Midtown.

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us, Amanda and Adam, and I wish you both lots of luck for your future together!  If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

A passage from The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach


A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.

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Ways to Make an Entrance at a Wedding in Central Park

One quite important part of a wedding ceremony is the way it begins.  The arrival of the people who are getting married is always exciting.  Traditionally, the arrival of the bride has been a very big deal.  Everyone else is ready and waiting and she appears to a big gasp from all in attendance.  In recent times, I’ve seen grooms make a grand entrance too, or couples arrive together, and that might be same-sex couples or heterosexual couples.  This blog post is not intended to advise on *who* should be making the grand entrance.  Instead it is to discuss the various popular wedding ceremony locations in Central Park and the opportunities they give for couples or individuals to make their entrance.

Shakespeare Garden

There are two areas that suit a small wedding party in the Shakespeare Garden.  One is a wooden platform with steps leading up to it towards the bottom of the garden.  The other is a large stone bench in the shade, with an area to the side of it that suits a wedding ceremony.  The bench is at the top, so you could make your entrance from the direction of Belvedere Castle, but to do that you would have to enter the park from the East side and then walk quite a long way. 

The most logical entrance to take to get to the Shakespeare Garden is the footpath that entrance the park at Central Park West ad 79th Street.  That way, you enter the Shakespeare Garden at the bottom of the garden and walk up to either location.  If you walk in to where the wooden platform is then you can walk up the steps to the officiant and/or your partner who would be waiting there for you.  If you walk up to the stone bench, or Whispering Bench as it is known, then you do have a short uphill walk through the garden.  If you do that, then you will want to pause to catch your breath before your arrival!

Belvedere Castle Terrace

This is the highest point in Central Park.  Belvedere Castle Terrace is reached by stone steps.  The best route to get to the castle is through the Shakespeare Garden, so it’s an uphill walk and then some steps after that.  So, a bride or couple can easily stay out of sight of their guests while a photographer can check that everyone is ready before they make their entrance. 

Ladies’ Pavilion

The Ladies’ Pavilion is a structure set in a clearing beside the Lake.  There is a pathway that leads down to the clearing.  This is a nice location for the arrival of a bride or couple because the pathway takes a gentle curve down to the location through the trees.  The closest entrance to the park is at Central Park West and 77th Street. 

We usually have the guests wait in the area around the Pavilion, with the officiant inside the structure and the photographer meet the bride and her party at the entrance to the park and then walk in with them.  The photographer can then leave the bride out of sight at the far end of the pathway and walk down ahead of her to check everyone is read for her arrival, and give the signal to the musician to play the processional if they have one.

Wagner Cove

The only way to reach Wagner Cove is to walk down some stone steps.  There is another route that takes a footpath alongside the Lake, but that way is not a practical way to arrive at a wedding.  The wooden structure at Wagner Cove is right on the water. 

The best way to get to Wagner Cove is to enter the park at Central Park West and 72nd Street and walk up to Cherry Hill.  The steps lead down to Wagner Cove from the pathway at Cherry Hill.  Those steps provide a striking entrance for anyone arriving at Wagner Cove for their wedding.  They don’t go straight down, rather taking turns among the foliage.  The drawback of course is that they would be an issue for anyone with restricted mobility.

Cherry Hill

This is a good spot for a larger group, gathered underneath the trees, overlooking the Lake and Bow Bridge.  To make an entrance here, you would walk into the park from Central Park West and 72nd Street, past Cherry Hill Fountain and then downhill into the grassed area of Cherry Hill.  It’s a short and pleasant walk, but the view of Bow Bridge will be behind anyone watching you arrive this way. 

Another option is to enter that same way, walk around the hill, past Bethesda Terrace and then along the pathway that passes Bow Bridge.  It’s a longer walk, but it means you enter the group by walking uphill to the grassed area, and this is how you’d have Bow Bridge behind you as you make your entrance – making for a much more striking photo.

Conservatory Gardens

There is more space at the North end of the park, and that is why the bigger weddings tend to be held in the Conservatory Gardens.  The permit fee to get married here is $500, which is considerably higher then the $25 permit fee everywhere else in Central Park.  The Conservatory Gardens are divided in to three areas, each with its own distinct style; Italian, French and English.  Permits are issued for one of these three areas.  The main entrance to the Conservatory Gardens is through the stunning Vanderbuilt Gate on 5th Avenue between 104th and 105th Streets.  Posing beside the gate makes for a striking photograph, but if your guests are waiting for you in any of the gardens, they are unlikely to see you arrive by the gate.

If guests gather either in the North Garden or South Garden, they are likely to be surrounding a fountain, and they will see a bride or couple approach just as they walk into the garden, it’s lovely but not very dramatic.  If the guests gather underneath the Wisteria Pergola they won’t see anyone approaching until they reach the top of the steps, so it’s a shorter walk for an arrival in that location.

Bow Bridge

There is just no sneaking up on Bow Bridge!  The benefit of holding a small ceremony on Bow Bridge is to enjoy the view.  It looks out over Cherry Hill and the Lake, so anyone can be clearly seen as they approach it.  A ceremony on Bow Bridge will not be private, there will be people passing by.  That’s the price you pay for that beautiful view!

Cop Cot

This is probably the wedding ceremony location that needs the shortest walk to get to from the street, but it is an uphill walk.  A couple and their guests can be dropped at the curb at Central Park South and 6th Avenue and be seen from the entrance way to Cop Cot.  It is for this reason that if you want your partner to have that dramatic “first look” as you walk through the entrance way to the structure, then they need to be standing well inside with the officiant as you arrive. 

The photos we have of brides walking up the hill to Cop Cot with their fathers and/or bridesmaids are quite striking, because they have that iconic backdrop of the trees of Central Park, with the buildings of Central Park South right behind them.  The doorway to Cop Cot is prettily framed with wisteria foliage in the summer, so provides a lovely framing for anyone arriving at the structure.

Gapstow Bridge

This bridge is quite a way into the middle of the South-East area of Central Park.  Some couples want to get married in the bridge itself, and some choose the area of grass next to the Pond, with Gapstow Bridge in the background.  The bridge is surrounding by winding pathways and is within quite an undulating area, so it’s easy enough to stay out of sight until you’re almost right there.  That approach makes for a nice entrance to a ceremony in this area.  The backdrop around Gapstow Bridge is that iconic view of trees with the tall buildings behind, so photos of your entrance are likely to be beautiful.

Bethesda Fountain

If your guests are waiting for you beside Bethesda Fountain then you have the opportunity to make an incredible entrance down those beautiful stone steps of Bethesda Terrace.  The Fountain, topped with the famous Angel of the Waters statue, is an iconic part of Central Park. 

Photos here will be striking, but this is probably the busiest part of Central Park, so there will be members of the public in your photos – that’s unavoidable.  Someone can easily stay out of sight of a group by the Fountain if they wait on the Terrace Drive before walking down the beautiful stone steps to their guests.

Underneath Bethesda Terrace

If you are worried about rain on your wedding day, then this is the location for you.  It is also strikingly beautiful underneath Bethesda Terrace, with the sandstone walls, Minton tile ceiling, and the view out to Bethesda Fountain through the arches. 

When guests gather underneath the Terrace, they won’t see you approach down the beautiful stone steps of Bethesda Terrace, but if you don’t want to be watched as you walk down roughly forty steps then this might be a blessing!  Those arches provide a stunning frame as you walk into the ceremony.


If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, visit our website.  If you have any questions about making an entrance to your wedding in Central Park after reading this blog post the drop me an email.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

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Samantha and Austin’s Cop Cot Wedding in August

Samantha and Austin got married in Cop Cot in August.  The couple brought a small group of guests with them from their home in Indianapolis.  They had been together for over six and a half years when they got married.  They met in the senior year of High School, and in the ceremony we talked about how their relationship has not only given them best friends in each other, but also allowed them to cultivate the amazing group of mutual friends who are here today, which I think is quite lovely. “We wanted to do something special and intimate for our wedding and decided a destination wedding in New York would be perfect!” said Samantha.

We arranged for the bridal bouquet and bridesmaids’ bouquets to be delivered to their hotel on the morning of the wedding.  They had peonies, garden roses, astilbe, sweet peas and hydrangea in pale pinks, blush, cream, and white.  We ordered bigger bouquets for the adults and small wrist corsages for the girls.  “The flowers were absolutely stunning,” Sam told me.

Our photographer met them all in their hotel to take some shots of them all getting ready together.  After that, the bridal party walked over to Central Park South together, so they also were able to capture some New York street photos on the way. 

The ceremony was at Cop Cot, at the very south end of Central Park.  Sam’s friend Alex played the violin for the guests while they waited for their bride to arrive, and also the processional for her to arrive to.  The couple shared traditional vows before the ring exchange.  During the ceremony, the officiant read an extract from Les Miserables by Victor Hugo, which I will share at the end of this post.

After the ceremony, the group took photos around Cop Cot and then made the short walk to Gapstow Bridge for photos there.  “We absolutely loved the photographer,” said Samantha.  “She was quick and efficient and listened to us when we had an idea but was also good at directing us non-professional models so that we got the best picture possible,” she said.  After photos in the park, they all left at the nearby 64th Street exit for their reception at Tony’s Di Napoli.

Samantha and Austin and their parties were staying at the Wellington Hotel, which is on West 55th Street, just four blocks’ walk away from Central Park South.  This meant that the travel side of things was fairly simple and straightforward since most people could walk to the locations, including their reception on 3rd Avenue, again just a short walk from Central Park. 

I asked how we did.  “You were fantastic to work with, communicating throughout the last year and always getting back to me quickly,” she said.  It was an absolute pleasure to work with you, Sam, I wish you both lots of luck for your future together. If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

The extract reading from Les Miserables by Victor Hugo: 

“You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.  The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be lonely again. And great happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves.” 

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What You Need to Know Before Planning a Destination Wedding

Many of my couples tell me that they have always wanted to get married somewhere exciting away from home.  They knew that the traditional option with lots of guests close to home wasn’t for them.  For some people it is difficult to make a move from the big dream of a destination wedding in to the practicalities of choosing the location and starting to make decisions on the details.  Here are a few things to consider when making the choice as to whether a destination wedding is right for you and your partner.

I write the ceremony wording for all of our couples, so I get to know them at least a little during the wedding planning process.  Lots of our couples are fond of travel, and have visited some amazing locations together in the past.  I think this helps when it comes to planning a destination wedding and letting go of the concern that they may not actually see their wedding location in person until they get there!  Many of our couples have visited New York before, some even got engaged in New York, but some have never been to the city before.  They certainly won’t be able to meet all of their vendors in person before the wedding and they may well not have set foot in the place where they will have their reception.  Couples from abroad need to be aware of this and unless they plan on making a trip to New York to scope things out in advance they just need to accept it.  If you hire a wedding planner such as myself to deal with a lot of this, then there is also some letting go involved. 

When choosing the country in which you want to say “I do” make sure that it will be legally recognised in your home country!  Lots of countries have stringent requirements for people to get married there, such as the language the ceremony must be in, the length of time the couple have to be in the country before they get married, or perhaps blood tests.  So, some couples have a legal ceremony in their home country before the symbolic ceremony abroad.  I often wonder when these couples celebrate their wedding anniversary.  In New York State, there are no restrictions on how long you need to be in the country before you get your license, only that you wait twenty fours between getting the license and having the ceremony.  After your marriage is registered it is legally recognised all over the world, although some countries require a long certificate instead of the standard certificate issued by City Hall.  It’s easy to get this and I can tell you all you need to do to get it.  For residents of the UK, as many of our couples are, here’s what the UK government says about the legalities surrounding a wedding in the US.

Often, our couples tell me that the trip to New York for their wedding might be the first time for many of their guests.  Keep in mind your loved ones’ appetite for travel when considering who you will invite.  Our couples tell me that their guests loved the idea of them getting married in New York, but it won’t be everyone’s idea of fun.  When considering a destination wedding it is wise to accept early on that not everyone in your life will be able to come.  They may not be available for your date; since a trip to New York requires much more of their time than an afternoon at a church or hotel in their town, or they may not be able to afford the trip, or they may just not be physically able to travel that far, as we find with many couples’ grandparents.

Another thing to keep in mind, as an extension to the point above, is that some people won’t like your choice.  I absolutely believe that a couple should have the wedding day that they want, not what others want, but friends and family may feel otherwise.  Some family may have their own ideas about what your wedding should be like, or they may resent being asked to pay for travel and accommodation to attend. 

It is so important to try to avoid stress when planning your wedding.  This is as true for a destination wedding as it is for a traditional wedding close to home.  I wrote a blog post with some tips on how to reduce stress when planning a destination wedding.  There are just some things that you can’t control when getting married far away and a bit part of reducing stress is to accept that.

This is an important one: check what the weather will be like when you get married.  This may help you to choose what time of year to go, or if you have a date in mind that you don’t want to change for whatever reason, this will help you to prepare for the weather.  The time of year you get married may also affect how busy the location will be and perhaps any holidays.  Of course you will need to think about the weather when you decide what to wear, and to advise your guests what they may wear. 

If you’re planning to get married in New York then the budget can be as big or small as you want it to be.  You should consider this at the start.  You can stay in a fancy, swish hotel, something more basic, or keep the costs down with an AirBnB stay.  There are hundreds of restaurants in walking distance of Central Park, and many more if you get in a cab, so the same goes for the reception location!  The cost of a destination wedding is likely to be well below the average cost of a traditional wedding, but you can still spend an awful lot on a trip like this if you don’t consider the budget early on.

Your wedding is your special day, but if you invite your nearest and dearest along to share in your special day then the comfort and happiness of you guests should be a big consideration.  In some way, this is even more true for a destination wedding; partly because you’ve asked such a lot of your guests for them to travel a long way to attend, and partly because you only have a small group, there are the people who matter most to you.  I wrote a couple of blog posts on how to make a destination wedding better for your guests.  I think it’s all about considering their needs, and clear communication about what you will be doing, and what is expected of them.

If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, large or small, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

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Eunice and Ray’s June Wedding Beside Bethesda Fountain

Eunice and Ray got married beside the Fountain on Bethesda Terrace in June.  Ray is a New Yorker and Eunice is from the Philippines.  They met online through a Christian online dating service two years before they got married.

We planned the wedding quite quickly – in around ten days.  Eunice and Ray decided quite early on that a small wedding in Central Park was right for them. They chose Bethesda Terrace because it is a beautiful area, but also because if it turned out to be raining, then they could have the ceremony underneath the Terrace so they would stay dry.

The couple rode in a horse-pulled carriage to their wedding from Columbus Circle.  They told the driver that they wanted to be at the top of the steps of Bethesda Terrace at 2pm and our photographer met them from the carriage.  Our officiant was waiting for them beside the Fountain.  The couple had one friend with them as witness, but if you’re considering an elopement, our photographer will be able to be witness to a wedding.

We kept the ceremony short and sweet, Eunice and Ray had chosen a reading from the bible; a very popular one from Corinthians:

Love is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

In the end, there was no need to be concerned about the weather, and Eunice and Ray had a very sunny afternoon for their wedding day.  Lots of couples are understandably concerned about rain on their wedding day, so I wrote a blog post about it. After the ceremony, they took some time around the area of Bethesda Terrace taking photos. 

Coincidentally, there were fireworks let off in Central Park that night, so Eunice and Ray had a unique display for their wedding night.  The New York Philharmonic were holding their annual Concert in the Park that day, and following the concert, a fireworks show took place at 9:30 that evening.

Afterwards I asked Ray how we did, he said “thank you so much Claire everything went according to plan so grateful for your efforts.  Thanks again in your wonderful organization on our wedding day.”  Thank you for your kind words, Ray.  If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

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Major Differences Between Weddings in Britain and Weddings in the USA

This is another blog post where I answer a frequently asked question that I get from my clients.  I am British and the majority of my clients getting married in Central Park are British (I estimate around 60-70% of our clients are British, of those, the majority are Scottish).  I was a bride in the USA, and a bridesmaid once as a child in England and again as an adult in Las Vegas, both for British couples.  I am by no means an expert on British weddings, since my own wedding and the more than three hundred weddings I have planned with Wed in Central Park have since have taken place in the USA, but I have attended a few weddings at home in Britain.  So, for those who were wondering, here’s my summary of the major differences between British weddings and US weddings that I have noticed.

Let’s begin with the pre-celebration parties!  Bachelorette parties are called hen parties or hen dos in Britain.  The “hen” refers to the bride, while “do” is what many of us Brits call a party.  The American tradition is to have a bridal shower which isn’t really a tradition Britain, but some groups in Britain are choosing to observe the American tradition and give gifts, and I have seen that.  A bachelor party is called a stag night or stag do in Britain. 

In the USA, bridesmaids tend to be the bride’s close grown-up friends, whereas in Britain, traditionally the bride usually chooses children from the two families to be the bridesmaids and pageboys.  If the bridesmaids are adults in Britain, a British bride tends to have fewer bridesmaids than an American bride, as a rule.  In the USA they tend to call the children ring bearers and flower girls and they might have a job to do, such as some holding the rings or the bride’s train, or perhaps dropping petals down the aisle.  In both countries, brides might have a maid of honor who might be already married and acts as a kind of head bridesmaid.  I’m told that British brides pay for their bridesmaids’ dresses, but in America, most bridesmaids buy their own dresses, although the bride will of course have a big say in what they wear, if not make the choice entirely.  Also, groomsmen are traditionally called ushers in the UK, although I do find British couples referring to groomsmen for our weddings, although that may because our wedding are less formal, so no real need for anyone to do any ushering!

In Britain, the bride usually walks down the aisle first and any bridesmaids walk down behind her, perhaps holding the train of her dress.  In the USA, the bridesmaids usually walk in first, ahead of the bride.  The bride makes the final, grand entrance.  Usually, for American weddings, the bridal party remains standing during the ceremony (if there are seats, which we don’t tend to have at weddings in Central Park!).  For British weddings, the bridal party sits down in the first row during the ceremony.

I’ve found that my couples from all over will decide for themselves how they will arrive at their wedding in Central Park.  I’m not sure if this is a general trend or just what I’ve seen over the years with my weddings in Central Park.  It is my view that same-sex couples have inspired many heterosexual couples to think differently about their arrival.  Since many same-sex couples choose to arrive together to their wedding (although not all!) I think it has given heterosexual couples the idea to do the same.

Strictly speaking, it is traditional for grooms in Britain to face the altar as their bride walks down the aisle, but increasingly these days, they are turning to watch her walk down the aisle, as the American grooms do.  What we’re finding with our weddings in Central Park, with Brits and Americans alike, is that brides and grooms might meet privately with the photographer before the wedding and have the photographer capture the “first look” of the couple seeing each other for the first time in a different setting to the ceremony.  As for who walks the bride down the aisle to her partner, it seems that the Americans popularised both parents walking a bride to the ceremony rather than just her father before the Brits started doing it in significant numbers.

A major difference between British and American weddings, is that in Britain, they must take place only in licensed locations.  This restricts couples quite a lot in where they can get married, especially if they want to elope or hold a small event.  In the USA, you can get married wherever you like!  This does boggle the minds of our British clients sometimes.  This makes things much easier, especially if you want to get married in a beautiful public park!

Americans tend to have a few get-togethers around the wedding; with rehearsal dinners, a reception meal and sometimes even a morning-after brunch.  Traditionally, the Brits focus on the “wedding breakfast” – the meal straight after the wedding and the photos.  Although, the Brits are taking on some of the other meals surrounding the celebration that the Americans have traditionally enjoyed.  With our couples, since they might be bringing a small group with them to New York from their home, they can incorporate many of these group celebrations into their break as a group in New York if they wish to.  In the USA, it is generally assumed that the bar tab will be covered for the guests, but in Britain, this isn’t always the case.  As a Brit who has lived in the USA for a few years, I’d suggest that this is because the Brits tend to put away a lot more booze than the Americans so it could turn out dangerously costly!

This label of the “wedding breakfast” comes from the tradition of British weddings starting around noon, so the meal tends to take place in the mid-afternoon.  This is usually with the close friends and family and then wider acquaintances will be invited for the evening do.  So, some guests might be at this evening party but not at the ceremony, this doesn’t tend to happen in the USA – churches come in bigger sizes in the USA (just like many other things!) so everyone can fit!  In the USA, weddings traditionally happen later in the afternoon.  These timing traditions don’t necessarily hold for more conventional weddings close to home so they certainly aren’t observed for events in Central Park!  Since our weddings take place outside and the receptions often aren’t traditional at all, I usually advise to go with whatever timings work best with your other plans for the day.

The Brits, as anyone who has watched a Royal wedding will know, love to wear a hat to a wedding!  Other than that, I’d say the Americans tend to dress more formally, with most weddings being a black tie event, ie a tuxedo for the men, whereas in Britain the men tend to wear morning suits.  We Brits also like a fruitcake for the wedding cake, whereas there are no rules when it comes to wedding cake in the USA.  Traditionally, the Brits might save the top tier of the cake for the Christening of their first child so it needs to be of a type that will keep for a little while!

I may well have missed quite a few, since I haven’t planned a wedding in Britain myself, but these are the differences I have noticed.  I’d love to hear in the comments from any other differences people have spotted or from anyone who disagrees with the views I’ve expressed above!  If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from Britain, the USA or any other country – we welcome everyone – visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

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Nicole and James’ Fall Wedding in Cop Cot

Nicole and James got married in November at Cop Cot.  They are both New Yorkers.  Nicole grew up in Staten Island and James grew up in Brooklyn.  Nicole was 28 and James was 29 on their wedding day.  They met in college.  They became friends while in college but did not start dating until years after they had both left college after reconnecting at a nineties night party in the West Village.  They were together for almost exactly six years to the date before getting married.  They got engaged in September 2019.  James surprised Nicole by getting down on one knee and proposing on the roof of their apartment building which overlooked the Brooklyn Bridge.

Like many couples who got married in 2020, the wedding that happened was not Nicole and James’ original plan.  They were set to have a large wedding with around two hundred guests at a beautiful venue in New Jersey.  But with all that happened due to Covid 19, they decided that it was wise to postpone the big celebration to late 2021.  They still wanted to get married in 2020 though, so an outdoor wedding seemed to be the right choice for them, since that is generally thought to keep everyone safer.  So, “after some research we came across Wed in Central Park and we are so happy that we did”, said James.  “We loved our small family ceremony in Central Park and will look back at the date as one of the very few bright spots in 2020,” he told me.

I asked what it was about getting married in Central Park that appealed to them.  “Nicole and I both have strong ties to New York City, having grown up in Staten Island and Brooklyn, respectively, and both going to college in Manhattan,” he explained.  They attended the Macaulay Honors College at Hunter College, located just a short walk from where their wedding took place.  After college, Nicole worked in the city, and James went to law school in the city.  “We got engaged in front of the Brooklyn Bridge,” he reminded me.  Their whole lives are just so NYC!  “Getting married in Central Park seemed like the perfect fit for us born and bred New Yorkers,” he said. 

When Nicole and James first contacted me two months before the wedding, they had already got the event permit for Cop Cot themselves.  At this time, due to Covid 19 restrictions, the number allowed at a gathering in Central Park was limited to a reduced number compared to normal times.  Usually we’re allowed up to fifty people in Cop Cot, but during this period the number was limited to thirty.  This was fine with Nicole and James; they planned to have only close family and friends present for this scaled-down wedding.  They wanted me to organize the officiant, photographer, videographer, musician and flowers.  We also decided to get a permit for a bad weather backup plan, for underneath Bethesda Terrace – luckily we didn’t need it!  Nicole and James requested their appointment at City Hall to get the marriage license, because that’s something the couple are legally required to do themselves. 

Cop Cot and the area around it is lovely at this time of year.  “The leaves had just begun to fall and change color; it was the perfect rustic wedding we wanted,” Nicole said.  As you can see from the photo, the foliage on top of Cop Cot was mostly still green, even in mid November.  “We loved taking pictures on the Mall/Literary Walk and Bethesda Terrace,” he added.  We checked what time sunset would be on their wedding day – 4:38pm – and we planned around that.  They met the photographer for photos around the park before the ceremony, including Nicole and the photographer meeting James at Cherry Hill with Bow Bridge in the background to take genuine and relaxed “first look” photos.  After taking pictures around that center area of the park, they walked down to Cop Cot for a 4pm ceremony.  After that, they took group photos at Cop Cot and left as the sun set. 

Our violinist played for the guests while they waited for the couple to arrive.  James arrived first and greeted their guests and then Nicole walked up the hill to Cop Cot with her father, who gave her away.  She walked in to the violinist playing Canon in D leading into Ed Sheeran’s Perfect and back into Canon in D, as the couple had requested. 

During the ceremony Nicole’s Uncle Michael read a poem; Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog, by Taylor Mali, and James’ sister Becky read The Art of Marriage, by Wilfred Peterson.  Both of which I’ll put at the end of this post.  Before they began the traditional exchange of vows, they each read out something they had prepared to say to each other.  They had kept what they were going to say a secret from each other until the day, but it turned out that they both asked the other to be their forever dance partner.  After they were pronounced married, the violinist played Marry You by Bruno Mars and then went back to playing background music while they signed the paperwork and took group photos.

We arranged for a mixed bouquet of white and ivory blooms to be delivered to their apartment.  It was tricky for the florist to commit to being able to source certain flowers due to breakdowns in supply due to Covid 19 but Nicole remained flexible about her options.  We were able to request the blooms that she was most keen on, but she was aware that we couldn’t be certain exactly what would be available for her date.  This was a November wedding so Nicole wore a long sleeved dress.  She also had a new denim jacket with her new married name embroidered on the back!  She used GlamSquad for her hair and makeup, “I asked for a natural look so I looked and felt like myself, and they did it perfectly!” she said. 

After the ceremony, they all had a family dinner at Tony’s Di Napoli, “the food, staff and service were excellent,” said Nicole.  I asked how we did.  “We appreciated how Claire was very detailed and responsive, so nothing was a surprise the day of, we knew exactly what to expect and that put us at ease,” said James.  Thanks so much for sharing your story with us, James and Nicole!  I hope you have a wonderful time this November when you finally get to celebrate with your larger social circle!  If you would like me to help you with planning your own Central Park wedding or elopement, whether you’re from near or far, visit our website.  Keep updated with our news and see lots of beautiful photos, “like” us on Facebook, follow us on Instagram and follow us on Pinterest

Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog, by Taylor Mali

First of all, it’s a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you’re walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain’t no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don’t you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you’re all wound up and can’t move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

The Art of Marriage, by Wilfred Peterson

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
The courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
It should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo, or the wife to have the wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
It is BEING the right partner.
This is the art of marriage.

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